On the subject of women not paying bills as raised by Dr Daniel McKorley aka McDan, investigative journalist Manasseh Azure Awuni has given a contrary view in a new post sighted on his Facebook page.
Days ago, the Ghanaian business magnate and CEO of McDan Group of Companies caused a stir when he said men should never allow their wives to pay bills because it’s not their responsibility.
“Your wife’s salary is her salary. Don’t come home and fight your wife because she can afford to pay the fees. Even if she is paying the fees, try to take over. You are the man. Been seen to be very responsible.
I’m very particular about that because a lot of fathers lately are marrying because they want women to pay their bills. Don’t be a man that a woman pays your bills,” he had said on Hitz FM.
However, Manasseh said his theory cannot be applied to all marriages because he (McDan) is a rich man and can afford to subscribe to this philosophy.
The journalist posted;
“McDan has said men should not allow their wives to pay the bills at home. He says even if your wife is paying the fees and bills, take over because that’s the role of a man. The woman’s money, according to him, is her money and not for the paying of bills. The man is the keeper of the home.
McDan is a rich man. If this applies in his marriage, I won’t fault him. But I disagree with his position as a prescription for all marriages.
A man’s money is not his money. A woman’s money is not her money. A woman’s money, like a man’s, is for the family.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman paying bills if she earns enough to support the home. If she earns far more than her husband and wants to take over the payment of bills at home, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
My wife sometimes gives me money when I ran out of cash. She shops for the home. There’s nothing shameful about that.
The notion that paying bills and taking care of the home is the responsibility of the man is outdated.
The shaming of men whose wives help take care of the home breeds unintended consequences and deepens the suppression of women.
It is the reason some men would do everything, including sabotaging their wives, to remain in control. If a wife gets a career breakthrough that would require her husband to sacrifice his career, the man should give way if his wife’s breakthrough is far more beneficial to the family than both.
But if that man will be ridiculed by the society because his wife is paying the bills, the won’t give up his place.
There are no strict and fast rules in marriage. What applies to McDan may not apply to me. What applies to me may not apply to you.
People should choose what works for them. Men whose wives pay bills should not be made to feel inadequate.”