Ghanaian actress Joselyn Dumas has opened up about the difficulties single mothers face when trying to get back into the dating scene.
During a recent conversation on her YouTube channel, Joselyn Dumas recounted a personal experience involving a friend who expressed reluctance to date a woman with a child, citing his hesitation to take on parental responsibilities for a child who wasn’t biologically his.
Dumas argued that this mentality contributes to why many single mothers remain single, as they encounter biases due to their having a child.
“We have our kids as single mothers but we still want to be happy. We still want to date other people.
“Let me tell you why we don’t go out and marry. I spoke to a friend of mine here, Anthony. He said, ‘Me, I will never be with a born one’.
“His reason was, ‘Why would I come and raise somebody else’s child? That’s not my bloodline. He doesn’t have any trace of my DNA in him. Why am I going to now help someone’s bloodline grow? What about mine?’
“And I said to myself that this is the reason why a lot of single mothers are single with their children,” he said.
She also questioned the difference in attitude towards adoption, suggesting that caring for a non-biological child should not be viewed differently.
“I asked him, ‘What about adoption?’ And he said that’s different. But if you ask me, it’s not that different,” she said.
The actress emphasized that single mothers often choose to raise their children alone out of sacrifice and necessity, not a preference for a single life.
“You can raise the child on your own. It’s a sacrifice you’ve also made as a woman. Regardless of what it is, you are going to have this child and you’re going to raise this child. It’s not because we want to be single,” she said.
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